How long will I have to wait to see a counsellor?
We aim to offer a first appointment within two weeks of your initial enquiry.

How much does counselling cost?
It costs up to £65 to provide an hour of counselling. Whilst we rely heavily on client contributions to meet these costs, we realise it is not possible for all to do so. If you are unable to make this level of contribution, please ensure you mention this upon your initial enquiry.

Is counselling confidential?
Counselling is a private and confidential form of help. Relate holds information about its clients and their counselling in confidence. We will not pass any information about you to an outside organisation unless there is an exceptional circumstance, for example if someone, especially a child, is at risk of serious harm. In such a circumstance, Relate would try to involve you in making a decision about any action that needed to be taken.

How long does counselling last?
A counselling session usually lasts one hour and ongoing appointments are arranged on a weekly basis. Counselling continues for as long as is needed but most clients find that six to eight session are enough. Clients attending sex therapy often attend for longer and will have one history taking session per person, which can be up to two hours.

Can I come to Relate on my own?
Yes. Counsellors are always willing to work with individuals and in some cases will invite couples to attend for separate sessions. We see individuals if their partner is unwilling to attend and often see individuals who are coming to terms with the break-up of a relationship.

Do I have to be married?
No. Relate will see people who are living separately, co-habiting, separated, divorced or married. We see both heterosexual and same-sex partners.

Can I bring my children?
Relate does not have the facilities to provide childcare. It is not appropriate to allow the child into the room when counselling is in progress if they are not part of the process. However, we do provide family counselling and a service for young people.

Useful Websites

These websites are checked and updated regularly:

  • Adviceguide – Citizens Advice Independent Information, advice and help
  • Advicenow – Advice Services Alliance factsheets and information
  • Safer Lancashire – Domestic Violence Outreach and Helplines

Legal Advice and Help

The following solicitors practices in Lancashire specialise in breakdown of marriage or relationship arrangements for children and other family matters.

The names listed are solely those who responded to our invitation to publicise in our Relate directory and made a charitable donation towards Relate Lancashire.


Other organisations

  • Relate – offers more detail on the national scope of our work
  • BACP – details national standards and framework for Counselling ad Psychotherapy
  • AFT – Association of Family Therapists
  • National Domestic Violence Helpline – 0808 2000 247 free phone 24 hour helpline
  • Respect Phone Line – information and advice line for people who are abusive towards their partners. 0808 8024040
  • Mens Advice line – for men whose partners are abusive toward them. 0808 801 0327

DV Refuges & Helpline Numbers, Lancashire:

Burnley: 01282 414130

Hyndburn & Ribble Valley: HARV on 01254 879855

Leyland: Helpline number (24 hr) 01772 435865

Nelson: 01282 661989

Pendle: 01282 726000

Preston – Safer Preston: 01772 921823

Preston: PDVS help line 01772 201601

Rossendale: STAR Centre 01706 830600

Skelmersdale: 01695 50600

National DV helpline: 0808 2000 247